Alvin wrote: Sun Sep 08, 2019 9:50 pm
Gregs672000 wrote: Sun Sep 08, 2019 6:49 pm
Ahhhahahahahahahah! Subliminal.
Subliminal, or indicKative of its owner?
Well... I realize you may be laughing at yourself, given the wheels are on your car

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This is my observation... communication is always limited and open to interpretation. Even if one "decides" that the other is being a Dick, how one responds is what you control, as well as offering a subtle opportunity for the other to review what was said and to (hopefully) adjust and learn how they may be being perceived even if it's contrary to their original intention.
When Will makes comments about my "fancy" ignition system or what is a good idea for a compression ratio and that my engine should make more power than it currently does, I choose to ignore what COULD be perceived BY ME as personal digs, and prefer to educate and acknowledge the pros and cons of choices made by ME for MY car instead of allowing underwear consternation to decide how I react in public (see dyno posts). In this current case, the OP (who is fairly new to 311s) made comment that there appear to be few wheel options and that a lack of "creativity" may be present, when in reality there is a great deal of info on a variety of wheels and choices, something that folks like Alvin have spent A LOT of time documenting and making available as a resource to us (thank you, it's greatly appreciated). However, I have found that when one wants to correct behavior, initially leading with the carrot is more effective than hitting with a stick and promotes self correction and less stress for all. Sometimes sticks are necessary, but sometimes people just don't realize how they're coming across (myself included as well, being human!). On the surface, it does appear that there are few wheel choices out there, but that is due to being new to the cars, and not necessarily an underlying disdain for other owner choices. Educate first, and allow for self correction by the individual and hope for a graceful acknowledgement of a change in perception. It creates more community and an environment of growth and support, instead of the "flame on" attitude one can find on many car or hobby websites.
My buck fifty... 2 cents was not enough...
