Simon, I've been walking around the house, just feelin bad for ya man. I know how hard you have been working on this project, and how much you have enjoyed the Roadster. You were bonding. I understand that feeling quite well, and I'd imagine you're feeling pretty crappy about now. I'm really sorry this has happened today.
If you end up needing a set of rod bearings, I have a new set of .50 oversize I'll give you if that helps. My replacement crank ended up a different size than mine, so I didnt need them and never sent them back to Dean. Consider it repayment for something you did for another, or consider it a down-payment on a future act. I also have three good U20 rods if needed.
I'd not even spin it anymore. You already know it's broken, you're just likely to hurt it more. Pull the pan, you'll find it.
Be not discouraged. Step by step this too will pass and you'll be back out and blasting again soon.
